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How many LGBTQ community members would be surprised to discover that they are, in fact, homophobic?  Just the idea will ruffle many feathers but the reality is that it's true.  Let's face it: no one "wants" to be gay.  It's not like we stopped and decided "Oh yes - let me consciously join a segment of the population that is constantly discriminated against and bullied!"  Most experts agree that homosexuality, bisexuality, and transgendered predilection are the result of some combination of genetics and environment.  Studies have shown that genetics is the principal culprit but upbringing definitely plays a role.  Translation?  We didn't ask for it but we were Born This Way.  Where then does homophobia within the LGBTQ community come from?  Primarily it stms from the fact that we were robbed of choice.  Most all of us were raised in a straight society and have been compartmentalized into a heterosexual mindset.  Internalized homophobia arises with the growing awareness that one is a homosexual living by heterosexual rules.  It's confusing.  It's frustrating.  It's infuriating.  And thus the seeds are sown for a field of self-loathing and initial resistance to one's true orientation.  But fear not!  As a full-fledged LGBTQ community member, internalized homophobia is but one more hurdle you will overcome on your path to true self-acceptance.  Resistance is futile.